Mediation Services

Carol Barkes

From Conflict to Calling: A Mediator's Journey

When my marriage ended, I couldn’t have imagined it would spark a seven-year legal battle. What began as a divorce quickly escalated into a high-conflict war zone of righteous arguments, devastating legal fees, and relentless stress that consumed every aspect of my life.

In one of our many court-mandated attempts at resolution, we were sent to mediation. The mediator—a retired attorney with kind intentions—kept us in separate rooms, shuttling back and forth with messages and proposals. There was no collaboration, no healing, no true understanding built between us.

We eventually settled that particular dispute, but it was merely a temporary truce in an ongoing war. New battles emerged with predictable regularity. Sometimes they erupted because our agreements weren’t specific enough—was Thanksgiving “a day,” “a weekend,” or “the entire week”? Other conflicts arose from broken promises: monthly visits that never materialized, or the time I took our youngest child out of the country without proper notification.

The sources of conflict seemed endless. Some were of our own making, born from hurt and mistrust. Many others resulted from a poorly crafted parenting plan, destructive communication patterns, and—most significantly—missed opportunities during mediation to learn the skills we desperately needed to co-parent effectively.

This chapter of my life taught me lessons I never expected to learn. It revealed exactly what was missing in the mediation process we experienced—and showed me what truly effective mediation could accomplish. Since I couldn’t find the mediator I needed during my own divorce, I became the mediator I wished I’d had.

Today, I bring this hard-won wisdom to each client I serve. I don’t just mediate agreements—I facilitate understanding, teach communication skills, and help create foundations for healthier relationships moving forward, even after a relationship ends.

If you’re facing conflict that seems impossible to resolve, I would be honored to walk alongside you on your journey toward peace.

Mediation Services for Individuals, Professionals, and Organizations

Whether you are facing a legal issue, a professional conflict, or a neighborhood dispute, I help you resolve it without going to court. My approach is grounded in neuroscience and designed to save time, reduce stress, and preserve peace of mind and relationships.

These professional conflict resolution services include:

Carol Barkes
Carol Barkes

Child Custody Mediation Services

Supporting families through conflict with clarity and care.

Family separation and conflict are among the most personal and painful challenges people face. Whether it’s divorce, co-parenting struggles, or long-term family planning, I provide expert support to help families resolve disputes respectfully and cost-effectively.

My goal is to create solutions that feel fair, where each person is heard and walks away satisfied.

I help with:

Let’s do it differently.

If You’re Facing Conflict That Feels Impossible

It’s not. But you can’t settle for a checkbox agreement that avoids the real issues. You need a space where resolution feels right, clear, and complete.

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